Psychologists highlight pitfalls of online dating


"Online dating is definitely a new and much needed twist on relationships," explains Harry Reis, one of the authors from the study.

"Corresponding by computer for weeks or months before meeting face-to-face has been shown to create unrealistic expectations.""These are the checklists we carry in our minds about the qualities or attributes a person "must" have if we're going to have a date with them.

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Psychologists highlight pitfalls of online dating

Internet dating comes along and simply intensifies this checklist mindset - leading to the shopping mentality highlighted by this study.

"Because a single can flick through Net profiles so quickly they start scanning for these immediate attributes and get sucked into thinking that the "next" person might have everything on their checklist.

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